According to Marcia Reynolds, anger can be a powerful tool for initiating positive change in your life. She notes:
The skill is to shift the focus of your anger away from external circumstances to instead focus on what you strongly desire to change within yourself.
Identify the anger, and realize that only you have the power to change your circumstances.
Does your job instill a latent bitterness in you, causing you to be on edge in everyday situations? Mine did. I would overreact to trivial inconveniences, using them as an opportunity to release the anger that had accumulated in me from years of practicing law. It was unhealthy. It degraded the quality of my life. And it needed to stop.
So many people either ignore their anger or are too trapped in their work to escape it. However, it is so true that finding the source of your anger and using it as momentum to finding your way out of a bad situation can bring about a positive change in your life.
Reynolds’ last point is key, and it is one strategy I am still working on fully embracing:
Therefore, once you commit to your transformation journey, you should shift your focus away from what is missing in your life (evoking anger) to what you want to passionately and positively create (inspiring passion). Determine what you want to end and then make the shift from a negative to a positive expression of want you deeply desire to create.
Adamantly wanting something to end is a good way to kickstart the transformation process. Yet once you are off and running, you need a positive obsession to sustain your efforts.
After years of being angry, you really need to train yourself to change your outlook from negative to positive. I’ve always subscribed to the saying “change your attitude or change your situation.” It goes beyond that though. To undo the carearing, changing your situation also must be accompanied by a dramatic change in attitude.